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9岁，四年级，男孩。上课不专心，和同学一起捣蛋。这学期带回家的检讨书有4封，被找家长谈话三次，email联系不计其数。上课不听讲，test成绩不好，作业经常丢三落四。在家里也是，不管做什么事情，总是有小动作。老师和家长一起教育，但是屡教不改。不知道怎么办？请教大家。

这个星期儿子周记他选的题目是I Wish for a New Skill。读了让我大开眼界。看到了儿子课上丰富的内心活动。他这样的白日梦正常么，我自己小时候也不爱学习，但还是挺乖的，不是他这样的。怎么能让他专注起来？

他天资聪颖，平时做喜欢的事情，比如画画，LEGO，读喜欢的书，都很专注。但是其他时候，能气死人。其实道理他都懂，就是不听话，不知道是不是他自控能力有问题。

先谢过了，我明天上来看。

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上半学期得了2个C，好歹数学还是A，也就算了。这个学期C肯定更多，数学起码有2次test，几乎全军覆没。他竟然，竟然还模仿我的签名，想糊弄过去。老师很负责，觉得家长太过镇静，感觉不对，给我email，才发现事情真相。签的initial及其逼真，连我自己都佩服。

周五收到drama老师email warning，说assignment due是4/3，他天天提醒我儿子，儿子都不交。要是今天这周一4/30再不交，就0分。我每天问我儿子有没有homework due，他从未提此事。

平时一和学习相关，就和我吵架。我吵架吵不过他，还不能体罚。在家里游戏玩得不多，所以也不能拿走游戏做惩罚。用电脑也多是查自己喜欢的subject。所以都不知道怎么惩罚他。最近一年，我基本对他无法。

除了学习以外，其他的，倒也没有太大冲突。老师说他很friendly，有gentle heart。

白天上班回帖不方便，晚上过来看，希望帖子不要沉下去。

• 哪里看出来是天才儿童啦？他数学不好的，上课内容不会，所以test成绩不好，根本不是因为太简单 –she3652003–    (0 bytes) (0 reads) 04/30/2018 postreply 07:24:24

• 他写的那些白日梦细节是因为亲身体验，所以才写的好吧。至于最后两段，估计老师教训他多了，都听会了。 –she3652003–    (0 bytes) (0 reads) 04/30/2018 postreply 07:25:47

• 我问他brain exercises是什么东西，他根本说不出所以然来 

儿子也有planner。但是他很多东西都不写，可能是开小差无意漏的，也可能是故意不写。

其实我焦虑的是这么小年纪我就对他无法，到了teen他不就更无法无天了。

• 他的学习成绩不好的。我觉得讨论他是不是天才没意义。他现在的班级可以说是天才班。我想讨论怎么能让他开始不分心，上课听讲，下课完成作业。

I wish for A New Skill!

If I could have any new skill it would (be) to focus better. Even after I get rid of all of my distractions I still find something to play with. I get distracted in most of my classes. Whenever something important is said I am usually distracted. While I am in Ms. Cage's class I think about pixies and faries flying around. When I look at them, I can't think of anything else! When I am in Ms Song's class I look at the teacher – then my hands. I look at them move and move till I am playing with them. I check the ceiling if the pixies or faries are there but they are not. I start to look for them around the roof. Or I will struggle for a comfy spot around the chair. Sometimes I feel lonely so we start a conversation about random ideas. How does this make me feel? Sometimes this makes me feel like I have drifted to another place far away! I can't see anyone I can't see anything and I am lost and I am worried. No other person is on this island, only me. I dont know where I came from. Just me on a small little piece of ground floating. When I come to reality I get bored and dont know what people are talking about. This may very well spoil my future.

What can I do to make this wish come true? I can do some brain exercises to help me focus better. I can get more good sleep so I can refresh myself and lastly keeping myself ahead of the class will improve my confidence. 

I have promised myself for this wish to come true.